BooYa
Daughter brought home Straight-As today.
posted by Lex Fori at
3:01 PM
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6 Comments:
Congrats to the proud MaMa!
rtdci
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Crazy East Coast Uncle, at 3:30 PM
BooYa Update. The "Ah Shit" supplement:
Not only did she bring home straight-As, but the latest email from Boyfriend informs that Daughter also brought home stories of being chased at recess by two boys. One screaming that the other had a crush - all the while proclaiming his own.
I want her to stay nine forever. Boyfriend's email was entitled "Chastity Belt." He is on to something. Now, not to be getting too into the perfection of Daughter's genes, but she is quite beautiful as well as genius. Even taking into consideration and discounting for a parent's bias. Things are about to get sticky and I would like to skip adolescence. Where are the damned time machines when you need them.
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Lex Fori, at 3:53 PM
ah, time machines, no fair...As Daughter grows, so will you, whether you like it or not. I am going through some of that with my Son, as you know! First year of HS, and, well, you know the story. Each kid things their story is different from everybody else's story, but, surprise, surprise, it is really the same story with different characters!
As the Mom, you get to pick this time, which character you want to play! Have fun!
vnwahp
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Crazy East Coast Uncle, at 4:58 PM
CECU,
You bring up an interesting point. And are in a perfect position being the parent of an only child just like me for my next question....
Do you think that the way you perceive CECC's dating (I know CECC is fixing to go pimp-sauce...) is at all affected by gender? Like, would you be proud if you learned that CECC tagged a drug rep? Will you offer high-fives and condoms or does the thought of your child's inevitable sexual activity freak you out? It terrifies me. Daughter's father has small heart attacks just thinking of such things. I wonder whether I would feel differently if I had a son instead?
Any thoughts from the yoda-like-oracle when it comes to raising a tween? Is a parent's approach to their child's dating and eventual sex-life dependent on gender? Should it be? And isn't it awful that we are having this conversation when our kids are so young? I mean, cheeses and rice, I just barely became comfortable discussing my own sex life!!
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Lex Fori, at 5:16 PM
You better get used to it!
At the "tender" age of 8, Son started asking straight questions: What is oral sex? What is doggy style? What is...fill in the blank...he asked it. He had heard this stuff at school and the playground and he wanted to know.
My philosophy has always been, if he is old enough to ask the question, then he is old enough for the answer! And the answers were never off of the cuff. I tried to explain the answer directly at first. Then, expand the discussion, allowing him to take the lead with further questions. When he had learned enough, he would stop asking questions. Sometimes, he would stop, think about the answers for a few days, then come back with more questions.
I preferred that he got the answers from me, instead of the misinformation from the playground and schoolmates, like I got growing up.
He knows that he can ask me anything, and he does, even now at the advanced age of "14" :) I prefer our relationship to always be open, and it is. The hurdle of the sex talk between parents and children, can be loaded with pit falls if the parent is not ready, or it can be a real "bonding" -no pun intended - experience.
When Son realized that he could talk to me about anything, he wasn't afraid to ask. Sometimes, I had to say, "let's look it up", and we did. He knows that I don't know everything, but, he also knows that I am not going to give him a load of crap either.
As for condoms, yes, he will be packing! As for under our roof, well, that is going to depend on a variety of factors, namely, CECA! :)
Would I feel differently raising a daughter? Probably not! The answers would still be direct, but she would be on the pill.
I have been around teenages long enough to know, that if they are curious about something, you are not going to be able to stop the curiousity. However, you can attempt to make that atmosphere, as positive, and reinforce the good, while dealing with the bad! And I mean that for yourself, as well as for Daughter!
Teenage years are very strange to teenagers. So many changes, and so little time to figure it out before it is gone. It is another phase of parenting, which won't go away....so...
You better get used to it!
rchlsyyp
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Crazy East Coast Uncle, at 6:40 PM
BTW Lex, your post about Daughter's grades came after my post about Son's grades! Copy Cat!
hehehehehe
rkstqfqy
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Crazy East Coast Uncle, at 5:54 AM
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